I talk to people quite often who tell me that their partner is getting tired of waiting for them to get their business off the ground. They’re working hard but just can’t seem to get everything to come together to produce real results.
But one thing they do know … if their partner would just give them a little breathing room, they’d have a much better chance of making their business into a success.
Having been on both sides of this dynamic … both as an underearning spouse and a single mom breadwinner, I want to let you know … it’s not their fault.
Sure it would be great if we all chose a partner who was our most enthusiastic cheerleader and biggest fan, but that’s not always the case. Or perhaps they were supportive in the beginning, but when we keep putting in more and more hours and continue to have very little to show for it, they start questioning why we keep throwing more time and money into what appears to be a black hole. And you can’t really blame them.
Even when your partner wants to be supportive, they don’t live in your head. They don’t have the same dreams. They don’t share all your thoughts and feelings. They probably don’t have the same beliefs about work, success, and money that you do. So, at the end of the day, they just don’t understand why you would continue to sacrifice your time with them on evenings and weekends when you don’t seem to be getting anything out of it. You don’t seem happier. You’re not making more money. And you don’t seem to be making any measurable progress from month to month even though you keep throwing more and more time and money in. From the outside, it doesn’t really make sense.
From my side, I just don’t know why they aren’t satisfied with their frustrated, overwhelmed, underearning, work-obsessed partner?
So there comes a time when you have to make a *decision.* You have to decide whether you believe in your dream or not. Whether they started out supportve … angry, money contribution, you’re not happy, You have to choose whether *you* believe in your dream or not.